7 goals for 2013

One had said that a great indicator for a successful person is that each year they set their own goals and they plan their life's directions.

I am not that type of person. I am a type of person who lives in the now. For me whatever happens, happens for a reason. I don't question what my present is nor question what my future brings. For years, I haven't had any goals or even resolutions at the start of the year. I just go with the flow and enjoy each moment that life brings. Maybe this is the reason why I am not a "successful person." For I haven't exactly set what I wanted to do with my so-called-life.

Reflecting about it, I can not say that I am not successful. I have work, yes, my work may not be worth as those that pay much but it permits me to come home to my husband and kids without any burden on my shoulder. It doesn't mean much to the eyes of everyone but for me it is an honest job that puts food on the table, send my kids to school and enough to let us travel from time to time. Secondly, I have a family that shares my joys and pains. For that reason alone, I am as successful as any person who can buy anything they want in any given time they like. So who would dictate that I am a loser. It's just in my head.

I want changes in my life. Physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially. And these changes will not happen if I will not set goals for myself. So while I'm at it. I'll list down these thoughts in my head that's been hanging around since the first day of this year 2013.

Let start with the "physical" aspect of me. It's been going round and round in my head to do something to help me lose weight. Believe me, I tried, I tried hard yet I failed each time I tried, for the motivation is not there. My kids and husband accepts me and my 75 kilo fats. So why would I change?

But it's for me. It's for my health. My husband and I always says to each other, "until 99." We want to grow old together with wrinkles and all. We want to see our grand children's children. And I won't reached that "ripe age" if I won't take care of myself now. If I don't motivate myself now to do something about it.

1. So one of the goal for my physical self is to seek for help and to do sport that will improve my heart's condition.

Emotionally. My emotion self involves the people that matter most in my life. One thing I lack is time. Time for myself, my kids and my husband and even time for my friends. I lacked time so much that I forgot things that matter most. But how can I lack time when people around me works 5 days a week and I work a day shorter than them. 3 days off, I guess is a lot of time for the things that matter most for me.

2. So for emotional self. I would like to learn how to organize my time so that I can spend quality time with all my three kids. Setting aside a time for each one of them. To go together somewhere else with each one of them.

3. Time for myself is the time that I update my blog. Meaning if I haven't updated this blog I did not achieved one of my goal. I'll also add "to be able to continue to read," to this and doing sport. It's like hitting two goals in one stone.

4. For the entire of 11 years as a married couple, my husband and I spent only twice in eleven years as all by ourselves. The rest it is always as a family, with the kids but never alone. The first time is when our first daughter is around 4 or 5 years old. We were excited at that time to be able to breath anew yet we spent it thinking about her all through the 3 days and 2 night that we're apart from her. So our first quality time as a couple didn't really work. The second time is last year. When my husband and I took advantage of their "hotel experience." We had dinner and we had a chance to sleep on one of their junior suites. So basically, we haven't seen our kids from dinner time until around 11 o'clock the next morning. So you couldn't really say that we really had quality time for ourselves for we spent it eating and just sleeping and returning the next day to our home.


So for this year, my goal is to encourage my husband to travel for a week without the kids. To rekindle our friendship through this voyage. (Mind you, friendship in a couple's life is a very important factor in dreaming and growing together.) So be prepared Venice, Italy here we come!!!

5. For friends, go out on a dinner from time to time and do bowling with them. My friends are simple, eating and bowling makes them happy so who am I to refuse them.
 
Spiritually. This is the hardest, for I felt for sometimes now I have no connection with the faith that I believed in. But I always feel the hollow space in my heart. It will be difficult to encourage my husband to hear mass for he works 7 days a week (And on week ends he works at night shift.) But the goal that I am setting is for my kids. That they will be able to have that faith that I believed in. That faith that keeps me hanging through my fingers in times of difficulty.

6. So for this aspect, I will have time to hear mass every week with my kids with or without my husband. To let them know the power of prayer and to introduce them the reasons for our living.

Financially, I have just one set of goal.

7. To save as much money as I can this year. Period. Money in our family has a lesser value than love. But life's hard choices and hardship thought me one thing: Love can make us feel that we are living abundantly but money simply makes us live.

What good does the "feeling of living abundantly" brings when in reality we're not even living because in our head there are unending bills to pay that haven't been paid yet. What good does a feeling brings if that feeling can not help you face the reality?

My husband always assures me that we always get by no matter what. And I do believe him that there is God (or if you don't believe in one, a Higher Power or a Higher Being) that help us go through with whatever situation we are in. He is helping us as always. But like as we say, God will not help those people who don't help themselves. So this time, I will be helping myself by saving. It is not being greedy. It is just being practical for the sake of my family. It is not as if I am putting money on the top of my list, it is still my family and it is just a subordinate to help this family."

So there you go, my goals for 2013. Does it mean that I belong to the successful person? Let me update you by the end of the year if I fulfilled these.

Happy 2012 Ending and A Happy 2013 Beginning!

Wish I have written more here. I just didn't have enough time these past three months or I was just lazy or busy with my "Korean TV Series."

But as we end the 2012 I wish that everyone will not forget what it brought us, all the trials and success, for these have created life experiences that we can use for the year ahead.

May we look forward to another year with much passion and hope that it will be much better than the past. May we create new memories that will always bring us happiness, love and hope. May we meet people who will give meaning to our lives. And may the "Heaven" continue to bless all of us.

Have a great, wonderful year to all of us!!!